Let the adventure begin!

I love travelling, I love aeroplanes and airports. Every country is unique. As life would have it at one point in time I worked for an airline. I loved it.

I learnt to pack a small bag with almost everything and to be ready, any moment you could be sent anywhere at anytime. Passport check, little bag check, yellow fever certificate check, some dollars and pounds check, handbag that can carry two T shirts just in case luggage is left behind, check! Ticket check! destination check!

Get the assignment and contact written down as clear as possible (those days mobile phones were not yet accessible, I had a pager! Yes you read right) Ticket recheck! Destination Recheck! Seat confirmed! at this point I am for sure on this flight. Everything is in order, I have arrived at the airport and gone through immigration check, passport stamped Exited and the date. I walk towards my gate and as I walk I must do some window shopping and finally go through the final security check before boarding the flight. My excitement level at this point is on, I just cant wait to get on board.

Finally I am on board. Soon very soon the plane is about to start to move……… going to the designated area for take off.

As this month of February is almost half way, are you preparing to take a flight into your destination of 2019?

Are you preparing? Or prepared? What’s packed? What’s the assignment, vision, goal? Is it written down? Who are you meeting up with? And why?

Are you ready for the adventure?

Who are you listening to?

The question above came from my Spiritual Father and mentor last month.

He was explaining why we have so many issues facing us today and attributed the problem to Knowledge. Yes Knowledge.

To explain better from the view of my family, Adam and Eve ate the fruit and indeed received knowledge. It is only after eating this fruit did they realize that they were naked. Before then; they were at peace. No knowledge on nudity. Soon after eating the fruit they heard God walking about and went and heed. God calls out to Adam.Asking where he is and his response is interesting.

He responded by saying he was hiding in the tress because he was naked. And God asks him the question. “Who told you, you’re naked?”

Another way as my Spiritual Father and Mentor brought out, “Who told you, you’re poor?” “Who told you, you are sick?” “Who told you, you’re not getting married?” “Who told you, you’re business idea cannot work?”

Really who told you?

And most important, why did or do you listen to that voice?

The voice that speaks over your life, is the voice that determines your destiny.

I think it would be wise to take time out of your life and ask and answer those questions. Especially if you are following a voice over your life that has no success to it, is not making progress in any area let alone the one you are perusing.

What type of knowledge are you letting into your life? Your heart, your family, your career, your children, your work or business, your mind and your environment. Is it moving you forward impacting lives, changing history or remaining stagnant with a bad attitude to boot.

Who are you listening to and why?

 

 

 

 

What does focus bring?

In the month of January I was getting my focus in check. I have been making sure that; that which I want to achieve this year is in clear view and sight.

I’m also making sure that I put on some blinders, because there are many shinny things that can and will come around, that can make me loose focus. It takes just a minute and look elsewhere and loose focus and sink!

Trust me, ask Peter! One minute he was walking on the water and in the next he began to sink. Well he lost focus and faith.

Where does the faith come in? how does it relate with focus? I think faith plays a big part as it helps us focus on our vision.

For the last few weeks I have been asking the question what is your focus? or where are you focusing on this year?

I believe it has been a bit challenging to a few people to answer the question especially if they do not have a VISION.

Focus brings clarity to your Vision!

Do you have a VISION?

What is your 2017 vision? and are you focusing on it?

This is my DARE Year 2017

Happy New Year 2017.

I have been away for the whole of last year. I had a shift. A major shift that made me learn and grow into a new normal. My Mum suffered a stroke early in 2016, and I had to start a new way of living. I had to go through so many emotions and stages.

In the beginning it was getting through the High Dependency Unit, and then when she passed that, it was getting through the ward. Soon she was given the go ahead to return home,and that started a new journey. I have been privileged to be staying home with Mum, and for the last few months we have moved through each phase, each challenge and now we are at a place of new growth.

For me to be able to be where I am, I have had to come through some difficult places on the journey; which way to turn left, right or to keep on going straight on. This has required wisdom, it has required understanding, it has required humility, and most importantly it has required me to reach out to those who are in a position higher than I am, in terms of lessons, experience and most importantly Spiritually.  There is a time in life I believe that one needs to re-examine their results, and question why ? why have I been here for one year, two years three years? why I am not where I know I should be? What is holding me back? Who is holding me back? and finally why????

Well, last year was that year to answer all these questions!  I am so happy that I have gone through what I have. I am stronger, more confident, more alive and more determined.

I am ready to live, I am ready to learn, I am ready to grow and I am determined not do this alone!

I hope you are ready, ready to DARE!

2017, this is my year to DARE and to SOAR. Because I am for Signs and Wonders!

To Mothers, daughters and sisters – Watch out

There is a quote by Maya Angelou “When people show you who they are, believe them” I think this is the best piece of advise that any person should follow but for today’s message I am especially going to repeat this quote to women; mothers, daughters, and sisters. Do not be fooled especially by men; let me paraphrase so that you understand me better.

When a man shows you who he is – by his actions not words, you better believe that this is who he is.

For example:

If he yells at you in private – he will eventually do it in public because this is who he is.

If he yells at you in private in ear shot of your child or children – sooner or later he will do this too in public, because this is who he is.

If he disrespect’s you in front of your children, he will do it in front of any body. Because somehow somewhere, some men – Fathers, husbands, and brothers seem to think that this is acceptable.

What is amazing is that who teaches men this type of behavior towards any woman? In this day and age men who rape women are no different from those who demean and disrespect any woman just because they can.

Worse – is for my daughter to witness this – right there and then. I wonder was this done so that she will also get to know her “place” by men who think and act like you?  See I can treat your mother like that, so it is okay for your boyfriend or husband to speak to you in the same way and treat you in the same way! Hell NO that is not my portion or my daughter’s You are bound in Jesus Name!

I do not accept that kind of verbal and emotional dress down from you or any other man for that matter.

As I was reminded yesterday; All things work together for good, for those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose. To all Mother’s, daughters and sisters I would say – take heed, watch out.

That man who keeps on treating you the way he does and you know it is not right will teach your daughters and sisters that this is acceptable; do not accept any type of abuse be it verbal, emotional, physical or psychological.

If you are a Father, husband or brother – be very careful how you treat your mother, wife, and sisters. You will set the tone for who your daughters will end up attracting and low and behold they might end up attracting someone just like you!

I hope this makes you wonder as to what kind of Man are you?

When I show people who I am, they will believe me!

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The Journey- The new normal

So the other day, I was back, happy to be back writing and looking forward to what this life journey would have in store for me.

As I started the Journey to finding self, I wanted to go back to where I had left off, in 2015 and explain why that year was a year of not just self discovery but a year of self acceptance, and getting my authenticity back!

Well life never really goes the way one plans, I guess it would be so mundane if it did go to the exact beat of my drum.
A lot has happened since I wrote the other day, and I do not know where to start, but I wanted to share this part of my journey with you. Why? Well because I am learning new lessons every day and for the past 21 days my idea of life has been shaken, what I consider important or urgent has been moved, the paradigm shift that I thought I had in my life – was shifted again. But this time, I have welcomed it with love and with a good attitude. Ce la vie, or as I have grown to love  – it is what it is.

On this new normal part of the journey, I have come to embrace my lessons, and myself. As a woman, a mother, a sister and a friend. There is a part missing but I am looking forward to going through that part of that journey.

In my new normal, being a mother and daughter has been redefined. I am learning and re learning everything my mother taught me, I am now doing it all for my mother. Patience, kindness, love, forgiveness, friendships, and friends, strength in self, and most important dependence and reliance in God.

To be able to face this new normal life, with grace, to ask for wisdom and understanding, to seek first to understand – than and then to be understood, to be available – totally to this new way of living, and to be thankful that I get to spend this time doing everything I can to help where I can, to make my Mum’s life so much more – sweeter, easier, greener, colorful, more laughter, more sharing, more of anything – to soak up this moment, this life this journey, this new normal and to find time to be grateful.

I welcome the new normal, as a guest, not to stay forever but to help us cross over from this part of the journey of life to the other part that awaits us, a better part, a fuller part, a blessed part a testimony part and most important a journey of courage, impact and growth.

 

 

 

 

Having a Winning day, week and year!

Today has been an awesome day.

It has been one of those days that I must admit that I have won. I started by declaring that today being a Wednesday It would be a winning one.

For this to happen I had to focus all my energy, actions and my mindset to winning. In my business my win was my friends trust and agreement for us to do business together.

After that I met up with my girlfriend who we agreed to win back everything that we felt has been taken from us, by first acknowledging what we have done and what we have not done and getting our minds to take action. There is nothing more powerful than a changed mind; that I have taken from TD Jake’s, and it is true.

I managed to get one of my team mates on phone and we come to an agreement that we meet up this Saturday, put a strategy in place and do the work, by June we must have made some money for her and her child to take a trip together. I asked her if it would be worth the effort and time to win? Of course it is, so we are off to the road of winners.

I managed to get home a bit early this day,I’m winning in taking the time to read, and prepare for tomorrow and the rest of the month. My targets need to get done, and I still have to keep on going so as to make it to the target for the year, better still to make it before the year ends.

Winning Wednesday’s will be going on for a long time. Each new Wednesday for each new week I shall review my wins, and I know I shall have a lot to celebrate and appreciate just because I have decided to win.

The best part to this particular Wednesday’s win’s is that am not doing it alone. There is nothing as bad as succeeding alone. It haunts you, it a lonely and it’s not fun.

I want to ask you this question, who are you with on the winners road? who have you decided to team up with, get into agreement with and walk this road together?

There is a lot of power in agreement. The good book says a lot about agreement. It says two are better than one. In fact it says its good to be two, so that if one of you falls down, you have someone there to help you get up. It asks the question-  how can two people walk together unless they agree? but the best one I like and invoke all the time is; If two or more agree than nothing- nothing can stop you.

On our journey to have the best year ever, to make the 6 figure income, to become better at what we do and to achieve our goals, are you doing this all by yourself, or have you decided to be a blessing to some one and share this journey?

Have a winning mind and heart. Lets get in agreement and remember success is sweeter when everyone in your team or in your circle is winning.

Here is to our winning this year!

True colors

Happy New Week!

The month is flying, well at least that is how I feel. I hope you all had a great Valentines day.  The day was awesome, I spent most of the time working, but the thing that just got me; was it rained.

I know for most of you, it is winter, for us here in Nairobi it has been a hot summer, with no rain, dry and dusty. So when the rain came down on Valentines day for me it was a sign. That the big guy upstairs has my back, not just mine but the whole country! What better way to show some love?

Today I wanted to “talk” about being true to self, I managed to watch my favorite movie – The matrix.

Honestly I love that movie, and one of the things I love is Neo learning himself. He learns he can be faster than what he thought he was, he learns that he made choices that most probably the Architect did not think he would do. He learns that to beat Smith – he needs to give up himself at that moment in order to get the peace that the human race need. There are like a billion things in the Matrix that I need to keep learning and reminding myself to do. The best one is the words written in the Oracles kitchen Know thy self.

This means to me – My true colors. Being true to me, in spite of what the world or the society would like me to believe is me. This process is not an easy one. I am learning that somethings that I thought were true to me, I picked them up because my circle of influence made them seem important.

Am also learning what I love or believe in, that resonates with me, does not resonate with others, and that’s just fine. Those things that resonate with me, make me unique, make me tick, they make me well Me.

My challenge right now is to show my true colors to the rest of the world. I must admit I have been hiding , mostly I guess out of fear, of what? I cannot even say.  Maybe am too loud, maybe am too colorful, or maybe am just too passionate about what I do…… so many maybe’s. But time has come for me to shine, to be my true self to show my true colors to the world, those who can’t handle me well they can just keep moving on.

So here is to my true colors and to yours too, let’s make sure that 2015, knows that we are here,  that we make sure that we light up the world up with our wit, our colors, our music, our novels, our lives!

Let Babyface and Phil Collins give you the picture with this song! and Be true to you, Show your true colors, because you are beautiful.

Learn to say I’m sorry

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Happy Valentines day to you all.

I hope this year, we will love each other every day, even after the flowers have died and the chocolates are eaten.  🙂

I have a dear friend who I called up yesterday to say hello and to request a meet up or catch up. We have not seen each other in at least two years.

I know. How can he be such a dear friend if we have not been in contact for two years?

Well, we were in university together, he was one of those people who knew from the get go, what he wanted to do and where he was going, I on the other hand was not too sure. We were opposites and we got along real good. Our friendship grew in such a way that even when we both finished university, we remained friends, and when it was time to say I do to our significant others – we were there.  We have been through each of us becoming parents, the ups and downs of our lives and family issues.

Then a few years ago, I did something. I asked for his help and he gave it to me. I promised to repay this deed, and I did not.  In the beginning when I could see that the promise I made, I would not be able to honor it, I did not know what to do. So I kept busy, we did meet in between, but I started to feel so bad and guilty. Eventually I could not bring myself to meet up with him. The guilt had turned into shame.

Life continued.

I would wonder how he and his family were doing, and then get back to my life with the guilt and shame tacked safely at the back of my mind. I wrestled with what to do, as the months turned into years. And somehow I just kept moving on.

Oh how I missed our friendship, our chats, our kids playing, our reviews of the years and plans, wondering why I let this happen in the first place. Every year, I would pluck up the courage to call him and say hello and just as the courage would come the shame, fear and guilt would come too.  I would then reschedule the call.

Yesterday however, I was asked by a mutual friend, how my friend was doing, and I said he must be doing well. That response was not what they expected at all. I really did not know what to say, I mumbled how we have not really met up and that we have both been super busy with family and work.

But in my heart I knew those where just my excuses. I parted ways with our mutual friend and felt so sad, my heart was heavy, and so I decided to give my dear friend a call, set a date to meet finally and catch up.

Yes, I called his cell phone- response, line busy, I thought oh well , at least I tried. Later on after a lot of debate and hesitation and just sheer determination to get this right I called and within the first ring he picked up and was so happy – he called me by my nickname that he uses, and I was so happy, we chatted briefly and agreed to meet up soon.

I felt so good after that, and I told him that I really want to restore our friendship, it might not be the way it use to be, but at least we can still be friends.  I’m getting ready to say sorry to him for everything that I did. Wipe the slate clean and start from today.

I can’t imagine what better way to celebrate Valentines than to say sorry to those I have not done right by, to close that story and start a new book, for us to write new memories and new stories with each other and our families and to remember that in loving our friends and family- sorry is one word that needs to be heard, over and over again.

Best part of love I think is forgiveness.  Learn to say sorry.

Have a forgiven day and year!

The power of little by little

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I am discovering every day is the power of little by little.

Doing something towards my goals each day and in a week I have covered a lot.
Now at the end of January I did not achieve all my goals but I got such awesome results.

You may not be aware that my favorite pair of jeans at one point were not fitting – not even close. I was so upset at the time with myself.
I really did not realize last year what was going on with me, around me and of course on me!
So when it came to putting on my jeans that fateful day and they could not fit- that was the action that broke my back.

I decided to change the story and write a new one.

So, one of my 2015 goals is to loose at least 2 kilos each month. I am not just loosing weight am changing my lifestyle; making sure I do eat more healthy, get in some exercise every day – twice a day – one major one in the morning and one polite walk in the evening.

In as much as I do not like to walk, jog or run, I have ended up really liking my evening walks, I love seeing the trees and the sunsets are so pretty.

Little by little in the month of January I lost 4 kilos (yupieeeee)
Just by keeping at it. Mostly by having a good attitude towards the exercise and eating what is healthy. I do of course have my occasional ice cream and sweets, but not as much and not as often.

I love the results.
The power of little steps here, little aerobics there and the result at the end of the month is worth every little activity that I have put in.

So I want to encourage us all, let us remember to practice the power of little by little.
A little prayer here, a little prayer there. A little kindness here and a little kindness there, a little forgiveness here and a little forgiveness there. A little hug here a little hug there.

A big little smile here and am sure your going to give me back a big little smile from there!