Who are you listening to?

The question above came from my Spiritual Father and mentor last month.

He was explaining why we have so many issues facing us today and attributed the problem to Knowledge. Yes Knowledge.

To explain better from the view of my family, Adam and Eve ate the fruit and indeed received knowledge. It is only after eating this fruit did they realize that they were naked. Before then; they were at peace. No knowledge on nudity. Soon after eating the fruit they heard God walking about and went and heed. God calls out to Adam.Asking where he is and his response is interesting.

He responded by saying he was hiding in the tress because he was naked. And God asks him the question. “Who told you, you’re naked?”

Another way as my Spiritual Father and Mentor brought out, “Who told you, you’re poor?” “Who told you, you are sick?” “Who told you, you’re not getting married?” “Who told you, you’re business idea cannot work?”

Really who told you?

And most important, why did or do you listen to that voice?

The voice that speaks over your life, is the voice that determines your destiny.

I think it would be wise to take time out of your life and ask and answer those questions. Especially if you are following a voice over your life that has no success to it, is not making progress in any area let alone the one you are perusing.

What type of knowledge are you letting into your life? Your heart, your family, your career, your children, your work or business, your mind and your environment. Is it moving you forward impacting lives, changing history or remaining stagnant with a bad attitude to boot.

Who are you listening to and why?

 

 

 

 

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My Words for 2017

As we crossed over into 2017, I was wondering what will make this year my most significant year?
What can I do this year that will for sure make it so different, have more impact, not just achieve my goals but crash them in terms of the return, the effect on others.

And these four words come to me:
1. Focus
2. Consistency
3. Commitment
4. Character

When I got these words I was like -okay no big deal, so what? but after some time and thought I have come to love and appreciate these words. I am committed to studying them and learning from them and really applying them every day to what I have decided to do.

In the month of January we went through the word Focus, we are now at the area of Vision. Do you have a vision for 2017? have you seen what you are going to achieve this 2017? are you replaying it in your mind every day? Twice a day?

I see my self everyday equipping leaders and professionals, by training, coaching and mentoring. I see myself on the stage talking and sharing and learning from others. I see myself travelling around the country, continents doing the same thing. I see myself and my children enjoying time together having fun, reading, sight seeing, visiting museums and amusement parks. I see myself meeting new leaders from all over the world, who are excited and are sharing their nuggets of wisdom with me. I can go on and on.

What do you see for yourself in 2017?

This is my DARE Year 2017

Happy New Year 2017.

I have been away for the whole of last year. I had a shift. A major shift that made me learn and grow into a new normal. My Mum suffered a stroke early in 2016, and I had to start a new way of living. I had to go through so many emotions and stages.

In the beginning it was getting through the High Dependency Unit, and then when she passed that, it was getting through the ward. Soon she was given the go ahead to return home,and that started a new journey. I have been privileged to be staying home with Mum, and for the last few months we have moved through each phase, each challenge and now we are at a place of new growth.

For me to be able to be where I am, I have had to come through some difficult places on the journey; which way to turn left, right or to keep on going straight on. This has required wisdom, it has required understanding, it has required humility, and most importantly it has required me to reach out to those who are in a position higher than I am, in terms of lessons, experience and most importantly Spiritually.  There is a time in life I believe that one needs to re-examine their results, and question why ? why have I been here for one year, two years three years? why I am not where I know I should be? What is holding me back? Who is holding me back? and finally why????

Well, last year was that year to answer all these questions!  I am so happy that I have gone through what I have. I am stronger, more confident, more alive and more determined.

I am ready to live, I am ready to learn, I am ready to grow and I am determined not do this alone!

I hope you are ready, ready to DARE!

2017, this is my year to DARE and to SOAR. Because I am for Signs and Wonders!

To Mothers, daughters and sisters – Watch out

There is a quote by Maya Angelou “When people show you who they are, believe them” I think this is the best piece of advise that any person should follow but for today’s message I am especially going to repeat this quote to women; mothers, daughters, and sisters. Do not be fooled especially by men; let me paraphrase so that you understand me better.

When a man shows you who he is – by his actions not words, you better believe that this is who he is.

For example:

If he yells at you in private – he will eventually do it in public because this is who he is.

If he yells at you in private in ear shot of your child or children – sooner or later he will do this too in public, because this is who he is.

If he disrespect’s you in front of your children, he will do it in front of any body. Because somehow somewhere, some men – Fathers, husbands, and brothers seem to think that this is acceptable.

What is amazing is that who teaches men this type of behavior towards any woman? In this day and age men who rape women are no different from those who demean and disrespect any woman just because they can.

Worse – is for my daughter to witness this – right there and then. I wonder was this done so that she will also get to know her “place” by men who think and act like you?  See I can treat your mother like that, so it is okay for your boyfriend or husband to speak to you in the same way and treat you in the same way! Hell NO that is not my portion or my daughter’s You are bound in Jesus Name!

I do not accept that kind of verbal and emotional dress down from you or any other man for that matter.

As I was reminded yesterday; All things work together for good, for those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose. To all Mother’s, daughters and sisters I would say – take heed, watch out.

That man who keeps on treating you the way he does and you know it is not right will teach your daughters and sisters that this is acceptable; do not accept any type of abuse be it verbal, emotional, physical or psychological.

If you are a Father, husband or brother – be very careful how you treat your mother, wife, and sisters. You will set the tone for who your daughters will end up attracting and low and behold they might end up attracting someone just like you!

I hope this makes you wonder as to what kind of Man are you?

When I show people who I am, they will believe me!

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I’m taking another step!

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This is the week, I have to accomplish my goals for the month and hit the residual income.

Am super excited.

I can’t lie sometimes I’m also a tad bit anxious. Have you ever known that you had to move the next level? But that means more. More of you being.

How am I coping? I found this very awesome video, that reminds me that everything happens for a reason.

The thing is my perception of myself is now ready for the next move. There are so many lessons I have learnt and am still learning on this journey. Sometimes I wanted that fast move, and am grateful that I have had to learn patience, and handling what I can at this step.

Knowing that this is my journey, I may have some people on the same path, but most of the time the path is mine. I have a few friends or family with me on some steps, but mostly I have to make so many decisions and take many other steps and many of them alone.

This is not a bad thing. Learning yourself, being humble, being coach-able, being in action, leads you to being ready to take the step, and take another step.

This is the journey, so here I am taking another step.

But let TD Jakes say it better

To those of you who are making sure that this is going to be your best year ever, please watch this short video. Keep at it. We are now left with 10 months to create our amazing 2015. I know it is possible. I am not going to quit, I may fall, but am back up. I am determined to make this year the best year ever.

Just because I can.

Let us do this!

 

Having a Winning day, week and year!

Today has been an awesome day.

It has been one of those days that I must admit that I have won. I started by declaring that today being a Wednesday It would be a winning one.

For this to happen I had to focus all my energy, actions and my mindset to winning. In my business my win was my friends trust and agreement for us to do business together.

After that I met up with my girlfriend who we agreed to win back everything that we felt has been taken from us, by first acknowledging what we have done and what we have not done and getting our minds to take action. There is nothing more powerful than a changed mind; that I have taken from TD Jake’s, and it is true.

I managed to get one of my team mates on phone and we come to an agreement that we meet up this Saturday, put a strategy in place and do the work, by June we must have made some money for her and her child to take a trip together. I asked her if it would be worth the effort and time to win? Of course it is, so we are off to the road of winners.

I managed to get home a bit early this day,I’m winning in taking the time to read, and prepare for tomorrow and the rest of the month. My targets need to get done, and I still have to keep on going so as to make it to the target for the year, better still to make it before the year ends.

Winning Wednesday’s will be going on for a long time. Each new Wednesday for each new week I shall review my wins, and I know I shall have a lot to celebrate and appreciate just because I have decided to win.

The best part to this particular Wednesday’s win’s is that am not doing it alone. There is nothing as bad as succeeding alone. It haunts you, it a lonely and it’s not fun.

I want to ask you this question, who are you with on the winners road? who have you decided to team up with, get into agreement with and walk this road together?

There is a lot of power in agreement. The good book says a lot about agreement. It says two are better than one. In fact it says its good to be two, so that if one of you falls down, you have someone there to help you get up. It asks the question-  how can two people walk together unless they agree? but the best one I like and invoke all the time is; If two or more agree than nothing- nothing can stop you.

On our journey to have the best year ever, to make the 6 figure income, to become better at what we do and to achieve our goals, are you doing this all by yourself, or have you decided to be a blessing to some one and share this journey?

Have a winning mind and heart. Lets get in agreement and remember success is sweeter when everyone in your team or in your circle is winning.

Here is to our winning this year!

Learn to say I’m sorry

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Happy Valentines day to you all.

I hope this year, we will love each other every day, even after the flowers have died and the chocolates are eaten.  🙂

I have a dear friend who I called up yesterday to say hello and to request a meet up or catch up. We have not seen each other in at least two years.

I know. How can he be such a dear friend if we have not been in contact for two years?

Well, we were in university together, he was one of those people who knew from the get go, what he wanted to do and where he was going, I on the other hand was not too sure. We were opposites and we got along real good. Our friendship grew in such a way that even when we both finished university, we remained friends, and when it was time to say I do to our significant others – we were there.  We have been through each of us becoming parents, the ups and downs of our lives and family issues.

Then a few years ago, I did something. I asked for his help and he gave it to me. I promised to repay this deed, and I did not.  In the beginning when I could see that the promise I made, I would not be able to honor it, I did not know what to do. So I kept busy, we did meet in between, but I started to feel so bad and guilty. Eventually I could not bring myself to meet up with him. The guilt had turned into shame.

Life continued.

I would wonder how he and his family were doing, and then get back to my life with the guilt and shame tacked safely at the back of my mind. I wrestled with what to do, as the months turned into years. And somehow I just kept moving on.

Oh how I missed our friendship, our chats, our kids playing, our reviews of the years and plans, wondering why I let this happen in the first place. Every year, I would pluck up the courage to call him and say hello and just as the courage would come the shame, fear and guilt would come too.  I would then reschedule the call.

Yesterday however, I was asked by a mutual friend, how my friend was doing, and I said he must be doing well. That response was not what they expected at all. I really did not know what to say, I mumbled how we have not really met up and that we have both been super busy with family and work.

But in my heart I knew those where just my excuses. I parted ways with our mutual friend and felt so sad, my heart was heavy, and so I decided to give my dear friend a call, set a date to meet finally and catch up.

Yes, I called his cell phone- response, line busy, I thought oh well , at least I tried. Later on after a lot of debate and hesitation and just sheer determination to get this right I called and within the first ring he picked up and was so happy – he called me by my nickname that he uses, and I was so happy, we chatted briefly and agreed to meet up soon.

I felt so good after that, and I told him that I really want to restore our friendship, it might not be the way it use to be, but at least we can still be friends.  I’m getting ready to say sorry to him for everything that I did. Wipe the slate clean and start from today.

I can’t imagine what better way to celebrate Valentines than to say sorry to those I have not done right by, to close that story and start a new book, for us to write new memories and new stories with each other and our families and to remember that in loving our friends and family- sorry is one word that needs to be heard, over and over again.

Best part of love I think is forgiveness.  Learn to say sorry.

Have a forgiven day and year!