Season’s : I am a seed.

It’s been a long while since I came and shared a few insights.  I had on occasion wanted to come and share, however I believed that when the time is right it would happen and most importantly it wouldn’t be a strain or a task, I would flow.

My life for the last three years changed in leaps and bounds. My Mum suffered a stroke just as I was entering into a new season. At that time, everything had to be put on hold. That particular time was what I called then the “New Normal” as everything changed. Everything.

And as I was searching for answers and guidance I entered into another season without really being aware of it. I have been learning, serving and being broken into the woman who I was born to be. During this process I have been enlightened to learn patience, life learning is a long process, some areas have speed, acceleration and other areas are going to take time and now I am okay with that.

There is no change without growth, and growth is  painful. A seed planted into the soil, has to die. Failure to which it cannot bring forth that which it carries.I had to learn during this period what kind of seed I am. i had to learn my identity.

My focus at the time was what I would produce. The result, the fruit, however I have come to learn that my identity is so important before being planted, and accepting my identity is vital for a great harvest.

Once I learned this lesson, the first season took place. The season of planting.

The season of being planted began; it was the season to die to self.

 

 

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Who are you listening to?

The question above came from my Spiritual Father and mentor last month.

He was explaining why we have so many issues facing us today and attributed the problem to Knowledge. Yes Knowledge.

To explain better from the view of my family, Adam and Eve ate the fruit and indeed received knowledge. It is only after eating this fruit did they realize that they were naked. Before then; they were at peace. No knowledge on nudity. Soon after eating the fruit they heard God walking about and went and heed. God calls out to Adam.Asking where he is and his response is interesting.

He responded by saying he was hiding in the tress because he was naked. And God asks him the question. “Who told you, you’re naked?”

Another way as my Spiritual Father and Mentor brought out, “Who told you, you’re poor?” “Who told you, you are sick?” “Who told you, you’re not getting married?” “Who told you, you’re business idea cannot work?”

Really who told you?

And most important, why did or do you listen to that voice?

The voice that speaks over your life, is the voice that determines your destiny.

I think it would be wise to take time out of your life and ask and answer those questions. Especially if you are following a voice over your life that has no success to it, is not making progress in any area let alone the one you are perusing.

What type of knowledge are you letting into your life? Your heart, your family, your career, your children, your work or business, your mind and your environment. Is it moving you forward impacting lives, changing history or remaining stagnant with a bad attitude to boot.

Who are you listening to and why?

 

 

 

 

My Words for 2017

As we crossed over into 2017, I was wondering what will make this year my most significant year?
What can I do this year that will for sure make it so different, have more impact, not just achieve my goals but crash them in terms of the return, the effect on others.

And these four words come to me:
1. Focus
2. Consistency
3. Commitment
4. Character

When I got these words I was like -okay no big deal, so what? but after some time and thought I have come to love and appreciate these words. I am committed to studying them and learning from them and really applying them every day to what I have decided to do.

In the month of January we went through the word Focus, we are now at the area of Vision. Do you have a vision for 2017? have you seen what you are going to achieve this 2017? are you replaying it in your mind every day? Twice a day?

I see my self everyday equipping leaders and professionals, by training, coaching and mentoring. I see myself on the stage talking and sharing and learning from others. I see myself travelling around the country, continents doing the same thing. I see myself and my children enjoying time together having fun, reading, sight seeing, visiting museums and amusement parks. I see myself meeting new leaders from all over the world, who are excited and are sharing their nuggets of wisdom with me. I can go on and on.

What do you see for yourself in 2017?

What does focus bring?

In the month of January I was getting my focus in check. I have been making sure that; that which I want to achieve this year is in clear view and sight.

I’m also making sure that I put on some blinders, because there are many shinny things that can and will come around, that can make me loose focus. It takes just a minute and look elsewhere and loose focus and sink!

Trust me, ask Peter! One minute he was walking on the water and in the next he began to sink. Well he lost focus and faith.

Where does the faith come in? how does it relate with focus? I think faith plays a big part as it helps us focus on our vision.

For the last few weeks I have been asking the question what is your focus? or where are you focusing on this year?

I believe it has been a bit challenging to a few people to answer the question especially if they do not have a VISION.

Focus brings clarity to your Vision!

Do you have a VISION?

What is your 2017 vision? and are you focusing on it?

This is my DARE Year 2017

Happy New Year 2017.

I have been away for the whole of last year. I had a shift. A major shift that made me learn and grow into a new normal. My Mum suffered a stroke early in 2016, and I had to start a new way of living. I had to go through so many emotions and stages.

In the beginning it was getting through the High Dependency Unit, and then when she passed that, it was getting through the ward. Soon she was given the go ahead to return home,and that started a new journey. I have been privileged to be staying home with Mum, and for the last few months we have moved through each phase, each challenge and now we are at a place of new growth.

For me to be able to be where I am, I have had to come through some difficult places on the journey; which way to turn left, right or to keep on going straight on. This has required wisdom, it has required understanding, it has required humility, and most importantly it has required me to reach out to those who are in a position higher than I am, in terms of lessons, experience and most importantly Spiritually.  There is a time in life I believe that one needs to re-examine their results, and question why ? why have I been here for one year, two years three years? why I am not where I know I should be? What is holding me back? Who is holding me back? and finally why????

Well, last year was that year to answer all these questions!  I am so happy that I have gone through what I have. I am stronger, more confident, more alive and more determined.

I am ready to live, I am ready to learn, I am ready to grow and I am determined not do this alone!

I hope you are ready, ready to DARE!

2017, this is my year to DARE and to SOAR. Because I am for Signs and Wonders!

To Mothers, daughters and sisters – Watch out

There is a quote by Maya Angelou “When people show you who they are, believe them” I think this is the best piece of advise that any person should follow but for today’s message I am especially going to repeat this quote to women; mothers, daughters, and sisters. Do not be fooled especially by men; let me paraphrase so that you understand me better.

When a man shows you who he is – by his actions not words, you better believe that this is who he is.

For example:

If he yells at you in private – he will eventually do it in public because this is who he is.

If he yells at you in private in ear shot of your child or children – sooner or later he will do this too in public, because this is who he is.

If he disrespect’s you in front of your children, he will do it in front of any body. Because somehow somewhere, some men – Fathers, husbands, and brothers seem to think that this is acceptable.

What is amazing is that who teaches men this type of behavior towards any woman? In this day and age men who rape women are no different from those who demean and disrespect any woman just because they can.

Worse – is for my daughter to witness this – right there and then. I wonder was this done so that she will also get to know her “place” by men who think and act like you?  See I can treat your mother like that, so it is okay for your boyfriend or husband to speak to you in the same way and treat you in the same way! Hell NO that is not my portion or my daughter’s You are bound in Jesus Name!

I do not accept that kind of verbal and emotional dress down from you or any other man for that matter.

As I was reminded yesterday; All things work together for good, for those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose. To all Mother’s, daughters and sisters I would say – take heed, watch out.

That man who keeps on treating you the way he does and you know it is not right will teach your daughters and sisters that this is acceptable; do not accept any type of abuse be it verbal, emotional, physical or psychological.

If you are a Father, husband or brother – be very careful how you treat your mother, wife, and sisters. You will set the tone for who your daughters will end up attracting and low and behold they might end up attracting someone just like you!

I hope this makes you wonder as to what kind of Man are you?

When I show people who I am, they will believe me!

Maya-Angelou-Quotes woman standing up for self

 

 

The Journey- The new normal

So the other day, I was back, happy to be back writing and looking forward to what this life journey would have in store for me.

As I started the Journey to finding self, I wanted to go back to where I had left off, in 2015 and explain why that year was a year of not just self discovery but a year of self acceptance, and getting my authenticity back!

Well life never really goes the way one plans, I guess it would be so mundane if it did go to the exact beat of my drum.
A lot has happened since I wrote the other day, and I do not know where to start, but I wanted to share this part of my journey with you. Why? Well because I am learning new lessons every day and for the past 21 days my idea of life has been shaken, what I consider important or urgent has been moved, the paradigm shift that I thought I had in my life – was shifted again. But this time, I have welcomed it with love and with a good attitude. Ce la vie, or as I have grown to love  – it is what it is.

On this new normal part of the journey, I have come to embrace my lessons, and myself. As a woman, a mother, a sister and a friend. There is a part missing but I am looking forward to going through that part of that journey.

In my new normal, being a mother and daughter has been redefined. I am learning and re learning everything my mother taught me, I am now doing it all for my mother. Patience, kindness, love, forgiveness, friendships, and friends, strength in self, and most important dependence and reliance in God.

To be able to face this new normal life, with grace, to ask for wisdom and understanding, to seek first to understand – than and then to be understood, to be available – totally to this new way of living, and to be thankful that I get to spend this time doing everything I can to help where I can, to make my Mum’s life so much more – sweeter, easier, greener, colorful, more laughter, more sharing, more of anything – to soak up this moment, this life this journey, this new normal and to find time to be grateful.

I welcome the new normal, as a guest, not to stay forever but to help us cross over from this part of the journey of life to the other part that awaits us, a better part, a fuller part, a blessed part a testimony part and most important a journey of courage, impact and growth.