The Journey- The new normal

So the other day, I was back, happy to be back writing and looking forward to what this life journey would have in store for me.

As I started the Journey to finding self, I wanted to go back to where I had left off, in 2015 and explain why that year was a year of not just self discovery but a year of self acceptance, and getting my authenticity back!

Well life never really goes the way one plans, I guess it would be so mundane if it did go to the exact beat of my drum.
A lot has happened since I wrote the other day, and I do not know where to start, but I wanted to share this part of my journey with you. Why? Well because I am learning new lessons every day and for the past 21 days my idea of life has been shaken, what I consider important or urgent has been moved, the paradigm shift that I thought I had in my life Рwas shifted again. But this time, I have welcomed it with love and with a good attitude. Ce la vie, or as I have grown to love  Рit is what it is.

On this new normal part of the journey, I have come to embrace my lessons, and myself. As a woman, a mother, a sister and a friend. There is a part missing but I am looking forward to going through that part of that journey.

In my new normal, being a mother and daughter has been redefined. I am learning and re learning everything my mother taught me, I am now doing it all for my mother. Patience, kindness, love, forgiveness, friendships, and friends, strength in self, and most important dependence and reliance in God.

To be able to face this new normal life, with grace, to ask for wisdom and understanding, to seek first to understand – than and then to be understood, to be available – totally to this new way of living, and to be thankful that I get to spend this time doing everything I can to help where I can, to make my Mum’s life so much more – sweeter, easier, greener, colorful, more laughter, more sharing, more of anything – to soak up this moment, this life this journey, this new normal and to find time to be grateful.

I welcome the new normal, as a guest, not to stay forever but to help us cross over from this part of the journey of life to the other part that awaits us, a better part, a fuller part, a blessed part a testimony part and most important a journey of courage, impact and growth.

 

 

 

 

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The Journey to Finding Self

It’s been a long long time since I last wrote.

A lot has happened in a year and then some. So I will start at the very beginning, it’s a very good place to start ūüôā

In my network  marketing  company I did move ranks and hit residual income.
It came at a cost too, one of my dear friends and team-mate also decided to leave. So it was bitter-sweet.
It hit me hard real hard. It felt like a breakup.¬†I¬† was gutted. Funny enough I don’t¬† know if I begged for a reason and understanding as to why.

It was not easy. This was someone I communicated with every day. We went for meetings together, we trained together, and planned together on everything.

I don’t know when, where or how I came to this point. And worse still at the time I did not know what to do.

After some time I realized¬† that I needed to honestly¬† find myself. I¬† needed to¬† look at and find out why this was devastating, surely I shouldn’t have taken it so¬† hard, but I did. Why?

The joy of the business¬† had also gone. Seeing as we had worked together for so long.¬† Even though I had no joy I kept my commitment to attend the meetings & training’s.

As time went by, I decided to take a sabbatical and revisit my core, my self.
It has been an interesting journey. I have  found  my voice, I have found my self and I am now ready for my life.

The good, the beautiful lessons learnt, I’m still learning and growing.

So here is my first lesson.

‚ô°Always be true to you.
Many people have advice on what you should do when you are going through your storm.

-We listen because maybe its a friend who went through something similar and knows better, or maybe because we need to  hear anything & everything to make us feel better.
Or we really do not know that our true self is more than capable of going through the storm so we whine and mourn and seek attention from whoever is available to listen.

After all is said and done. Unless you face your true self and get real and answer all the questions that you need to, in order to move on, you will be stuck.

So lesson one, be true to yourself, acknowledge your hurt, pain and everything that needs to be acknowledged, it does not mean you agree or you are okay with it, but at least you are not hiding your head in the sand, and hoping that everything will just sort itself out, it never will unless you are present.

Have a true to you day!

I’m taking another step!

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This is the week, I have to accomplish my goals for the month and hit the residual income.

Am super excited.

I can’t lie sometimes I’m also a tad bit anxious. Have you ever known that you had to move the next level? But that means more. More of you being.

How am I coping? I found this very awesome video, that reminds me that everything happens for a reason.

The thing is my perception of myself is now ready for the next move. There are so many lessons I have learnt and am still learning on this journey. Sometimes I wanted that fast move, and am grateful that I have had to learn patience, and handling what I can at this step.

Knowing that this is my journey, I may have some people on the same path, but most of the time the path is mine. I have a few friends or family with me on some steps, but mostly I have to make so many decisions and take many other steps and many of them alone.

This is not a bad thing. Learning yourself, being humble, being coach-able, being in action, leads you to being ready to take the step, and take another step.

This is the journey, so here I am taking another step.

But let TD Jakes say it better

To those of you who are making sure that this is going to be your best year ever, please watch this short video. Keep at it. We are now left with 10 months to create our amazing 2015. I know it is possible. I am not going to quit, I may fall, but am back up. I am determined to make this year the best year ever.

Just because I can.

Let us do this!

 

Having a Winning day, week and year!

Today has been an awesome day.

It has been one of those days that I must admit that I have won. I started by declaring that today being a Wednesday It would be a winning one.

For this to happen I had to focus all my energy, actions and my mindset to winning. In my business my win was my friends trust and agreement for us to do business together.

After that I met up with my girlfriend who we agreed to win back everything that we felt has been taken from us, by first acknowledging what we have done and what we have not done and getting our minds to take action. There is nothing more powerful than a changed mind; that I have taken from TD Jake’s, and it is true.

I managed to get one of my team mates on phone and we come to an agreement that we meet up this Saturday, put a strategy in place and do the work, by June we must have made some money for her and her child to take a trip together. I asked her if it would be worth the effort and time to win? Of course it is, so we are off to the road of winners.

I managed to get home a bit early this day,I’m winning in taking the time to read, and prepare for tomorrow and the rest of the month. My targets need to get done, and I still have to keep on going so as to make it to the target for the year, better still to make it before the year ends.

Winning Wednesday’s will be going on for a long time. Each new Wednesday for each new week I shall review my wins, and I know I shall have a lot to celebrate and appreciate just because I have decided to win.

The best part to this particular Wednesday’s win’s is that am not doing it alone. There is nothing as bad as succeeding alone. It haunts you, it a lonely and it’s not fun.

I want to ask you this question, who are you with on the winners road? who have you decided to team up with, get into agreement with and walk this road together?

There is a lot of power in agreement. The good book says a lot about agreement. It says two are better than one. In fact it says its good to be two, so that if one of you falls down, you have someone there to help you get up. It asks the question-  how can two people walk together unless they agree? but the best one I like and invoke all the time is; If two or more agree than nothing- nothing can stop you.

On our journey to have the best year ever, to make the 6 figure income, to become better at what we do and to achieve our goals, are you doing this all by yourself, or have you decided to be a blessing to some one and share this journey?

Have a winning mind and heart. Lets get in agreement and remember success is sweeter when everyone in your team or in your circle is winning.

Here is to our winning this year!

True colors

Happy New Week!

The month is flying, well at least that is how I feel. I hope you all had a great Valentines day.  The day was awesome, I spent most of the time working, but the thing that just got me; was it rained.

I know for most of you, it is winter, for us here in Nairobi it has been a hot summer, with no rain, dry and dusty. So when the rain came down on Valentines day for me it was a sign. That the big guy upstairs has my back, not just mine but the whole country! What better way to show some love?

Today I wanted to “talk” about being true to self, I managed to watch my favorite movie – The matrix.

Honestly I love that movie, and one of the things I love is Neo learning himself. He learns he can be faster than what he thought he was, he learns that he made choices that most probably the Architect did not think he would do. He learns that to beat Smith – he needs to give up himself at that moment in order to get the peace that the human race need. There are like a billion things in the Matrix that I need to keep learning and reminding myself to do. The best one is the words written in the Oracles kitchen Know thy self.

This means to me – My true colors. Being true to me, in spite of what the world or the society would like me to believe is me. This process is not an easy one. I am learning that somethings that I thought were true to me, I picked them up because my circle of influence made them seem important.

Am also learning what I love or believe in, that resonates with me, does not resonate with others, and that’s just fine. Those things that resonate with me, make me unique, make me tick, they make me well Me.

My challenge right now is to show my true colors to the rest of the world. I must admit I have been hiding , mostly I guess out of fear, of what? I cannot even say. ¬†Maybe am too loud, maybe am too colorful, or maybe am just too passionate about what I do…… so many maybe’s. But time has come for me to shine, to be my true self to show my true colors to the world, those who can’t handle me well they can just keep moving on.

So here is to my true colors and to yours too, let’s make sure that 2015, knows that we are here, ¬†that we make sure that we light up the world up with our wit, our colors, our music, our novels, our lives!

Let Babyface and Phil Collins give you the picture with this song! and Be true to you, Show your true colors, because you are beautiful.

Learn to say I’m sorry

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Happy Valentines day to you all.

I hope this year, we will love each other every day, even after the flowers have died and the chocolates are eaten. ¬†ūüôā

I have a dear friend who I called up yesterday to say hello and to request a meet up or catch up. We have not seen each other in at least two years.

I know. How can he be such a dear friend if we have not been in contact for two years?

Well, we were in university together, he was one of those people who knew from the get go, what he wanted to do and where he was going, I on the other hand was not too sure. We were opposites and we got along real good. Our friendship grew in such a way that even when we both finished university, we remained friends, and when it was time to say I do to our significant others Рwe were there.  We have been through each of us becoming parents, the ups and downs of our lives and family issues.

Then a few years ago, I did something. I asked for his help and he gave it to me. I promised to repay this deed, and I did not.  In the beginning when I could see that the promise I made, I would not be able to honor it, I did not know what to do. So I kept busy, we did meet in between, but I started to feel so bad and guilty. Eventually I could not bring myself to meet up with him. The guilt had turned into shame.

Life continued.

I would wonder how he and his family were doing, and then get back to my life with the guilt and shame tacked safely at the back of my mind. I wrestled with what to do, as the months turned into years. And somehow I just kept moving on.

Oh how I missed our friendship, our chats, our kids playing, our reviews of the years and plans, wondering why I let this happen in the first place. Every year, I would pluck up the courage to call him and say hello and just as the courage would come the shame, fear and guilt would come too.  I would then reschedule the call.

Yesterday however, I was asked by a mutual friend, how my friend was doing, and I said he must be doing well. That response was not what they expected at all. I really did not know what to say, I mumbled how we have not really met up and that we have both been super busy with family and work.

But in my heart I knew those where just my excuses. I parted ways with our mutual friend and felt so sad, my heart was heavy, and so I decided to give my dear friend a call, set a date to meet finally and catch up.

Yes, I called his cell phone- response, line busy, I thought oh well , at least I tried. Later on after a lot of debate and hesitation and just sheer determination to get this right I called and within the first ring he picked up and was so happy – he called me by my nickname that he uses, and I was so happy, we chatted briefly and agreed to meet up soon.

I felt so good after that, and I told him that I really want to restore our friendship, it might not be the way it use to be, but at least we can still be friends. ¬†I’m getting ready to say sorry to him for everything that I did. Wipe the slate clean and start from today.

I can’t imagine what better way to celebrate Valentines than to say sorry to those I have not done right by, to close that story and start a new book, for us to write new memories and new stories with each other and our families and to remember that in loving our friends and family- sorry is one word that needs to be heard, over and over again.

Best part of love I think is forgiveness.  Learn to say sorry.

Have a forgiven day and year!

Celebrating each other

I have woken up with such a warm feeling today, am feeling so good with myself.

Yes! I am.

When was the last day you felt good about you? This morning? yesterday ? last year?

For many people it is not easy to feel good about yourself, maybe cause you have not achieved your goals for the month, or you have fallen out of the “resolution” mood, and now the reality, that one month has gone in 2015 which you cannot get back.

My advice to you this day is to stop stressing yourself Рyes you may have not done what  you set out to do but you can change your mind and start today to get things done.

The best way to do this is by celebrating others.

There are always people around you. Do you notice them? do you notice what they do for you and themselves? Take for example your spouse, do you celebrate them everyday? Do you realize that they chose you? out of so many people in the world they chose you! They love you, they give themselves to you- that is worth celebrating.

What about your children? Do you celebrate them? They listen to you, they are reflections of you- the good the bad the cheeky! love them as they love you, praise them for remembering the house rules, for doing their work well, for them doing their best.

What your office mates? do you really appreciate what they do – so that you get to do what you do? Its all about team work. Do you celebrate your team mates? Are you cheering them on as they cheer you on? Do you motivate, inspire and guide others to be the best that they can be?

What about your social networks – your friends and extended family? Do you have time to visit catch up with them as they tell you about their ups and downs? Do you remind them how valuable they are to you and your family?

Every one in one way or the other is celebrating you, they do this one day at a time, one moment in time.

I suggest that you also take time to do the same, and just maybe you might see that as you celebrate others, in doing so your life has so much more positive energy that you get to spread around.

Today I celebrate you- those who read this blog and share it, those who are out to achieve their dreams, crush their goals and want to give back to the world by being their best~ Hip hip Hurray!