This is my DARE Year 2017

Happy New Year 2017.

I have been away for the whole of last year. I had a shift. A major shift that made me learn and grow into a new normal. My Mum suffered a stroke early in 2016, and I had to start a new way of living. I had to go through so many emotions and stages.

In the beginning it was getting through the High Dependency Unit, and then when she passed that, it was getting through the ward. Soon she was given the go ahead to return home,and that started a new journey. I have been privileged to be staying home with Mum, and for the last few months we have moved through each phase, each challenge and now we are at a place of new growth.

For me to be able to be where I am, I have had to come through some difficult places on the journey; which way to turn left, right or to keep on going straight on. This has required wisdom, it has required understanding, it has required humility, and most importantly it has required me to reach out to those who are in a position higher than I am, in terms of lessons, experience and most importantly Spiritually.  There is a time in life I believe that one needs to re-examine their results, and question why ? why have I been here for one year, two years three years? why I am not where I know I should be? What is holding me back? Who is holding me back? and finally why????

Well, last year was that year to answer all these questions!  I am so happy that I have gone through what I have. I am stronger, more confident, more alive and more determined.

I am ready to live, I am ready to learn, I am ready to grow and I am determined not do this alone!

I hope you are ready, ready to DARE!

2017, this is my year to DARE and to SOAR. Because I am for Signs and Wonders!

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To Mothers, daughters and sisters – Watch out

There is a quote by Maya Angelou “When people show you who they are, believe them” I think this is the best piece of advise that any person should follow but for today’s message I am especially going to repeat this quote to women; mothers, daughters, and sisters. Do not be fooled especially by men; let me paraphrase so that you understand me better.

When a man shows you who he is – by his actions not words, you better believe that this is who he is.

For example:

If he yells at you in private – he will eventually do it in public because this is who he is.

If he yells at you in private in ear shot of your child or children – sooner or later he will do this too in public, because this is who he is.

If he disrespect’s you in front of your children, he will do it in front of any body. Because somehow somewhere, some men – Fathers, husbands, and brothers seem to think that this is acceptable.

What is amazing is that who teaches men this type of behavior towards any woman? In this day and age men who rape women are no different from those who demean and disrespect any woman just because they can.

Worse – is for my daughter to witness this – right there and then. I wonder was this done so that she will also get to know her “place” by men who think and act like you?  See I can treat your mother like that, so it is okay for your boyfriend or husband to speak to you in the same way and treat you in the same way! Hell NO that is not my portion or my daughter’s You are bound in Jesus Name!

I do not accept that kind of verbal and emotional dress down from you or any other man for that matter.

As I was reminded yesterday; All things work together for good, for those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose. To all Mother’s, daughters and sisters I would say – take heed, watch out.

That man who keeps on treating you the way he does and you know it is not right will teach your daughters and sisters that this is acceptable; do not accept any type of abuse be it verbal, emotional, physical or psychological.

If you are a Father, husband or brother – be very careful how you treat your mother, wife, and sisters. You will set the tone for who your daughters will end up attracting and low and behold they might end up attracting someone just like you!

I hope this makes you wonder as to what kind of Man are you?

When I show people who I am, they will believe me!

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The Journey- The new normal

So the other day, I was back, happy to be back writing and looking forward to what this life journey would have in store for me.

As I started the Journey to finding self, I wanted to go back to where I had left off, in 2015 and explain why that year was a year of not just self discovery but a year of self acceptance, and getting my authenticity back!

Well life never really goes the way one plans, I guess it would be so mundane if it did go to the exact beat of my drum.
A lot has happened since I wrote the other day, and I do not know where to start, but I wanted to share this part of my journey with you. Why? Well because I am learning new lessons every day and for the past 21 days my idea of life has been shaken, what I consider important or urgent has been moved, the paradigm shift that I thought I had in my life – was shifted again. But this time, I have welcomed it with love and with a good attitude. Ce la vie, or as I have grown to love  – it is what it is.

On this new normal part of the journey, I have come to embrace my lessons, and myself. As a woman, a mother, a sister and a friend. There is a part missing but I am looking forward to going through that part of that journey.

In my new normal, being a mother and daughter has been redefined. I am learning and re learning everything my mother taught me, I am now doing it all for my mother. Patience, kindness, love, forgiveness, friendships, and friends, strength in self, and most important dependence and reliance in God.

To be able to face this new normal life, with grace, to ask for wisdom and understanding, to seek first to understand – than and then to be understood, to be available – totally to this new way of living, and to be thankful that I get to spend this time doing everything I can to help where I can, to make my Mum’s life so much more – sweeter, easier, greener, colorful, more laughter, more sharing, more of anything – to soak up this moment, this life this journey, this new normal and to find time to be grateful.

I welcome the new normal, as a guest, not to stay forever but to help us cross over from this part of the journey of life to the other part that awaits us, a better part, a fuller part, a blessed part a testimony part and most important a journey of courage, impact and growth.

 

 

 

 

The Journey to Finding Self

It’s been a long long time since I last wrote.

A lot has happened in a year and then some. So I will start at the very beginning, it’s a very good place to start 🙂

In my network  marketing  company I did move ranks and hit residual income.
It came at a cost too, one of my dear friends and team-mate also decided to leave. So it was bitter-sweet.
It hit me hard real hard. It felt like a breakup. I  was gutted. Funny enough I don’t  know if I begged for a reason and understanding as to why.

It was not easy. This was someone I communicated with every day. We went for meetings together, we trained together, and planned together on everything.

I don’t know when, where or how I came to this point. And worse still at the time I did not know what to do.

After some time I realized  that I needed to honestly  find myself. I  needed to  look at and find out why this was devastating, surely I shouldn’t have taken it so  hard, but I did. Why?

The joy of the business  had also gone. Seeing as we had worked together for so long.  Even though I had no joy I kept my commitment to attend the meetings & training’s.

As time went by, I decided to take a sabbatical and revisit my core, my self.
It has been an interesting journey. I have  found  my voice, I have found my self and I am now ready for my life.

The good, the beautiful lessons learnt, I’m still learning and growing.

So here is my first lesson.

♡Always be true to you.
Many people have advice on what you should do when you are going through your storm.

-We listen because maybe its a friend who went through something similar and knows better, or maybe because we need to  hear anything & everything to make us feel better.
Or we really do not know that our true self is more than capable of going through the storm so we whine and mourn and seek attention from whoever is available to listen.

After all is said and done. Unless you face your true self and get real and answer all the questions that you need to, in order to move on, you will be stuck.

So lesson one, be true to yourself, acknowledge your hurt, pain and everything that needs to be acknowledged, it does not mean you agree or you are okay with it, but at least you are not hiding your head in the sand, and hoping that everything will just sort itself out, it never will unless you are present.

Have a true to you day!

I’m taking another step!

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This is the week, I have to accomplish my goals for the month and hit the residual income.

Am super excited.

I can’t lie sometimes I’m also a tad bit anxious. Have you ever known that you had to move the next level? But that means more. More of you being.

How am I coping? I found this very awesome video, that reminds me that everything happens for a reason.

The thing is my perception of myself is now ready for the next move. There are so many lessons I have learnt and am still learning on this journey. Sometimes I wanted that fast move, and am grateful that I have had to learn patience, and handling what I can at this step.

Knowing that this is my journey, I may have some people on the same path, but most of the time the path is mine. I have a few friends or family with me on some steps, but mostly I have to make so many decisions and take many other steps and many of them alone.

This is not a bad thing. Learning yourself, being humble, being coach-able, being in action, leads you to being ready to take the step, and take another step.

This is the journey, so here I am taking another step.

But let TD Jakes say it better

To those of you who are making sure that this is going to be your best year ever, please watch this short video. Keep at it. We are now left with 10 months to create our amazing 2015. I know it is possible. I am not going to quit, I may fall, but am back up. I am determined to make this year the best year ever.

Just because I can.

Let us do this!

 

Having a Winning day, week and year!

Today has been an awesome day.

It has been one of those days that I must admit that I have won. I started by declaring that today being a Wednesday It would be a winning one.

For this to happen I had to focus all my energy, actions and my mindset to winning. In my business my win was my friends trust and agreement for us to do business together.

After that I met up with my girlfriend who we agreed to win back everything that we felt has been taken from us, by first acknowledging what we have done and what we have not done and getting our minds to take action. There is nothing more powerful than a changed mind; that I have taken from TD Jake’s, and it is true.

I managed to get one of my team mates on phone and we come to an agreement that we meet up this Saturday, put a strategy in place and do the work, by June we must have made some money for her and her child to take a trip together. I asked her if it would be worth the effort and time to win? Of course it is, so we are off to the road of winners.

I managed to get home a bit early this day,I’m winning in taking the time to read, and prepare for tomorrow and the rest of the month. My targets need to get done, and I still have to keep on going so as to make it to the target for the year, better still to make it before the year ends.

Winning Wednesday’s will be going on for a long time. Each new Wednesday for each new week I shall review my wins, and I know I shall have a lot to celebrate and appreciate just because I have decided to win.

The best part to this particular Wednesday’s win’s is that am not doing it alone. There is nothing as bad as succeeding alone. It haunts you, it a lonely and it’s not fun.

I want to ask you this question, who are you with on the winners road? who have you decided to team up with, get into agreement with and walk this road together?

There is a lot of power in agreement. The good book says a lot about agreement. It says two are better than one. In fact it says its good to be two, so that if one of you falls down, you have someone there to help you get up. It asks the question-  how can two people walk together unless they agree? but the best one I like and invoke all the time is; If two or more agree than nothing- nothing can stop you.

On our journey to have the best year ever, to make the 6 figure income, to become better at what we do and to achieve our goals, are you doing this all by yourself, or have you decided to be a blessing to some one and share this journey?

Have a winning mind and heart. Lets get in agreement and remember success is sweeter when everyone in your team or in your circle is winning.

Here is to our winning this year!

True colors

Happy New Week!

The month is flying, well at least that is how I feel. I hope you all had a great Valentines day.  The day was awesome, I spent most of the time working, but the thing that just got me; was it rained.

I know for most of you, it is winter, for us here in Nairobi it has been a hot summer, with no rain, dry and dusty. So when the rain came down on Valentines day for me it was a sign. That the big guy upstairs has my back, not just mine but the whole country! What better way to show some love?

Today I wanted to “talk” about being true to self, I managed to watch my favorite movie – The matrix.

Honestly I love that movie, and one of the things I love is Neo learning himself. He learns he can be faster than what he thought he was, he learns that he made choices that most probably the Architect did not think he would do. He learns that to beat Smith – he needs to give up himself at that moment in order to get the peace that the human race need. There are like a billion things in the Matrix that I need to keep learning and reminding myself to do. The best one is the words written in the Oracles kitchen Know thy self.

This means to me – My true colors. Being true to me, in spite of what the world or the society would like me to believe is me. This process is not an easy one. I am learning that somethings that I thought were true to me, I picked them up because my circle of influence made them seem important.

Am also learning what I love or believe in, that resonates with me, does not resonate with others, and that’s just fine. Those things that resonate with me, make me unique, make me tick, they make me well Me.

My challenge right now is to show my true colors to the rest of the world. I must admit I have been hiding , mostly I guess out of fear, of what? I cannot even say.  Maybe am too loud, maybe am too colorful, or maybe am just too passionate about what I do…… so many maybe’s. But time has come for me to shine, to be my true self to show my true colors to the world, those who can’t handle me well they can just keep moving on.

So here is to my true colors and to yours too, let’s make sure that 2015, knows that we are here,  that we make sure that we light up the world up with our wit, our colors, our music, our novels, our lives!

Let Babyface and Phil Collins give you the picture with this song! and Be true to you, Show your true colors, because you are beautiful.