Who are you listening to?

The question above came from my Spiritual Father and mentor last month.

He was explaining why we have so many issues facing us today and attributed the problem to Knowledge. Yes Knowledge.

To explain better from the view of my family, Adam and Eve ate the fruit and indeed received knowledge. It is only after eating this fruit did they realize that they were naked. Before then; they were at peace. No knowledge on nudity. Soon after eating the fruit they heard God walking about and went and heed. God calls out to Adam.Asking where he is and his response is interesting.

He responded by saying he was hiding in the tress because he was naked. And God asks him the question. “Who told you, you’re naked?”

Another way as my Spiritual Father and Mentor brought out, “Who told you, you’re poor?” “Who told you, you are sick?” “Who told you, you’re not getting married?” “Who told you, you’re business idea cannot work?”

Really who told you?

And most important, why did or do you listen to that voice?

The voice that speaks over your life, is the voice that determines your destiny.

I think it would be wise to take time out of your life and ask and answer those questions. Especially if you are following a voice over your life that has no success to it, is not making progress in any area let alone the one you are perusing.

What type of knowledge are you letting into your life? Your heart, your family, your career, your children, your work or business, your mind and your environment. Is it moving you forward impacting lives, changing history or remaining stagnant with a bad attitude to boot.

Who are you listening to and why?

 

 

 

 

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This is my DARE Year 2017

Happy New Year 2017.

I have been away for the whole of last year. I had a shift. A major shift that made me learn and grow into a new normal. My Mum suffered a stroke early in 2016, and I had to start a new way of living. I had to go through so many emotions and stages.

In the beginning it was getting through the High Dependency Unit, and then when she passed that, it was getting through the ward. Soon she was given the go ahead to return home,and that started a new journey. I have been privileged to be staying home with Mum, and for the last few months we have moved through each phase, each challenge and now we are at a place of new growth.

For me to be able to be where I am, I have had to come through some difficult places on the journey; which way to turn left, right or to keep on going straight on. This has required wisdom, it has required understanding, it has required humility, and most importantly it has required me to reach out to those who are in a position higher than I am, in terms of lessons, experience and most importantly Spiritually.  There is a time in life I believe that one needs to re-examine their results, and question why ? why have I been here for one year, two years three years? why I am not where I know I should be? What is holding me back? Who is holding me back? and finally why????

Well, last year was that year to answer all these questions!  I am so happy that I have gone through what I have. I am stronger, more confident, more alive and more determined.

I am ready to live, I am ready to learn, I am ready to grow and I am determined not do this alone!

I hope you are ready, ready to DARE!

2017, this is my year to DARE and to SOAR. Because I am for Signs and Wonders!

The Journey- The new normal

So the other day, I was back, happy to be back writing and looking forward to what this life journey would have in store for me.

As I started the Journey to finding self, I wanted to go back to where I had left off, in 2015 and explain why that year was a year of not just self discovery but a year of self acceptance, and getting my authenticity back!

Well life never really goes the way one plans, I guess it would be so mundane if it did go to the exact beat of my drum.
A lot has happened since I wrote the other day, and I do not know where to start, but I wanted to share this part of my journey with you. Why? Well because I am learning new lessons every day and for the past 21 days my idea of life has been shaken, what I consider important or urgent has been moved, the paradigm shift that I thought I had in my life – was shifted again. But this time, I have welcomed it with love and with a good attitude. Ce la vie, or as I have grown to love  – it is what it is.

On this new normal part of the journey, I have come to embrace my lessons, and myself. As a woman, a mother, a sister and a friend. There is a part missing but I am looking forward to going through that part of that journey.

In my new normal, being a mother and daughter has been redefined. I am learning and re learning everything my mother taught me, I am now doing it all for my mother. Patience, kindness, love, forgiveness, friendships, and friends, strength in self, and most important dependence and reliance in God.

To be able to face this new normal life, with grace, to ask for wisdom and understanding, to seek first to understand – than and then to be understood, to be available – totally to this new way of living, and to be thankful that I get to spend this time doing everything I can to help where I can, to make my Mum’s life so much more – sweeter, easier, greener, colorful, more laughter, more sharing, more of anything – to soak up this moment, this life this journey, this new normal and to find time to be grateful.

I welcome the new normal, as a guest, not to stay forever but to help us cross over from this part of the journey of life to the other part that awaits us, a better part, a fuller part, a blessed part a testimony part and most important a journey of courage, impact and growth.

 

 

 

 

Learn to say I’m sorry

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Happy Valentines day to you all.

I hope this year, we will love each other every day, even after the flowers have died and the chocolates are eaten.  🙂

I have a dear friend who I called up yesterday to say hello and to request a meet up or catch up. We have not seen each other in at least two years.

I know. How can he be such a dear friend if we have not been in contact for two years?

Well, we were in university together, he was one of those people who knew from the get go, what he wanted to do and where he was going, I on the other hand was not too sure. We were opposites and we got along real good. Our friendship grew in such a way that even when we both finished university, we remained friends, and when it was time to say I do to our significant others – we were there.  We have been through each of us becoming parents, the ups and downs of our lives and family issues.

Then a few years ago, I did something. I asked for his help and he gave it to me. I promised to repay this deed, and I did not.  In the beginning when I could see that the promise I made, I would not be able to honor it, I did not know what to do. So I kept busy, we did meet in between, but I started to feel so bad and guilty. Eventually I could not bring myself to meet up with him. The guilt had turned into shame.

Life continued.

I would wonder how he and his family were doing, and then get back to my life with the guilt and shame tacked safely at the back of my mind. I wrestled with what to do, as the months turned into years. And somehow I just kept moving on.

Oh how I missed our friendship, our chats, our kids playing, our reviews of the years and plans, wondering why I let this happen in the first place. Every year, I would pluck up the courage to call him and say hello and just as the courage would come the shame, fear and guilt would come too.  I would then reschedule the call.

Yesterday however, I was asked by a mutual friend, how my friend was doing, and I said he must be doing well. That response was not what they expected at all. I really did not know what to say, I mumbled how we have not really met up and that we have both been super busy with family and work.

But in my heart I knew those where just my excuses. I parted ways with our mutual friend and felt so sad, my heart was heavy, and so I decided to give my dear friend a call, set a date to meet finally and catch up.

Yes, I called his cell phone- response, line busy, I thought oh well , at least I tried. Later on after a lot of debate and hesitation and just sheer determination to get this right I called and within the first ring he picked up and was so happy – he called me by my nickname that he uses, and I was so happy, we chatted briefly and agreed to meet up soon.

I felt so good after that, and I told him that I really want to restore our friendship, it might not be the way it use to be, but at least we can still be friends.  I’m getting ready to say sorry to him for everything that I did. Wipe the slate clean and start from today.

I can’t imagine what better way to celebrate Valentines than to say sorry to those I have not done right by, to close that story and start a new book, for us to write new memories and new stories with each other and our families and to remember that in loving our friends and family- sorry is one word that needs to be heard, over and over again.

Best part of love I think is forgiveness.  Learn to say sorry.

Have a forgiven day and year!